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Today we’re going to talk about why certain men and women are able to do amazing things in their lives and why most will not.
And for what I’m about to say, keep whatever works for you and discard the rest.
As someone who has coached so many folks, I’ve heard lots of excuses for why we fall short on the things we say we want to create. This could show up in our businesses, our family, our marriage. Doesn’t matter.
Most folks will blame a lack of resources or a lack of knowledge. “We didn’t have enough funding. We didn’t have enough time. We didn’t have the right marketing. We didn’t have the right personnel.” That sounds good, and it may even be partially true. It’s easy to claim we failed because we didn’t have enough time or money or specific knowledge. But then we have to ask why were others able to make it happen even though they didn’t have the resources or knowledge? This is because the real reason why we fall short is because of what’s happening between our ears.
I believe what’s more true is that we’re willing to do whatever it takes with conditions. These conditions are usually unspoken, and it’s these conditions that reveal what we’re truly committed to.
For example: Somebody may say “I’m willing to do whatever it takes” but what’s more true is that they’re saying “I’m willing to do whatever it takes — as long as —
I don’t have to be uncomfortable
I don’t have to give up something I enjoy
I don’t look bad
I don’t risk losing money or status
I don’t have to be alone
I don’t upset anybody
I don’t look like a jerk
As you can imagine, the list can go on and on.
Now I want to be clear, I’m not saying we need to become bloodthirsty tyrants in order to create the life and business we want.
I’m saying that many times we’re unaware of what Robert Kegan calls our ‘competing commitment’. If we don’t own these unspoken conditions, then they’re always going to have power over us. We’ll remain unaware of why we’re sabotaging ourselves.
But by bringing this competing commitment into view, we can begin to challenge the fears and assumptions that keep us from making progress.
Here are some examples just from some of the guys I’ve worked with:
There was one guy who said he wanted to build his business, but deep down he was afraid of being uncool. He was so fearful of being uncool that he was unwilling to take any action that may remotely have him look bad. Guess what that does to the potential of your business when you’re unwilling to take risks? So in his world, he was willing to do whatever it took unless it made him look uncool.
But when we’re unconscious of this stuff we stay stuck in a defensive position. Instead of playing for what we want we end up playing not to lose. So consider the idea that when it comes to this self-image stuff, wherever we defend is where we lose power. As I’ve said before, “Life’s a lot more fun when you get over yourself.”
Easier said than done.
A good coach or support will help you identify your competing commitments and then you can begin to challenge them. You can ask yourself, “Is it really necessary for me to always look cool? Is it really necessary for me to be the smartest guy in the room? Is it really true that I would be a selfish jerk if I spoke up for what I wanted? Is it really true the sky would fall if I took this risk? Is it really true that I wouldn’t be okay if something didn’t go as planned?”
This is like grabbing a flashlight and looking for the monster under the bed. Most of the time when we get under there and look, we find that we’re far bigger than the thing we fear. Most of the time the monster only lives in our head.
Having this awareness keeps us from making excuses, it keeps us from playing the victim. It pulls us out of a defensive position and has us play for what we truly want.
I hope this has been helpful for you. Here’s to all of us living with greater freedom, aliveness, peace, and love. Thanks for watching.
The New Man Podcast. Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp. Personal development for guys who think self help is for losers.
Entrepreneur, Startup, and Executive Coach Tripp Lanier covers the topics guys are hungry to explore but typically only discuss after a few beers. Each podcast consists of real world, practical advice so guys can rise above mediocrity and live a life of purpose and meaning.
Topics include: relationships, sex, dating, career, money, power, overcoming fear, fitness, inner game, lifestyle design, and spirituality.
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